"Mirror Mirror on the Wall..."
In constructing my own response to the "Who are you?" blog post, I began to think about a lot of things that can shape a person's identity. As many of you pointed out, people are largely a product of their environment; whether that is good or bad remains to be seen by the person. Many of you also made reference to the fact that parents and upbringing have the greatest impact on who you are, and for the most part, at least at the tender age of 15-17, I would say that is probably accurate. Now, my question(s) for this week sort of hinge on that idea; that is, how other people's perceptions and thoughts about who YOU are actually contribute to what you think of yourself. What is the difference between what "they" (friends, family and/or teachers) think you are, and what you can be? What is the difference between what you think you are (right now in the moment), and what you think you can be? How much do you take other people's perceptions of you into consideration as you form your own self-concept? What I mean is, how important is how others see you in the grand scheme of figuring out who you really are? Definitely a deep-thinking question, I know, but since I know who you are, I know you can do it! (200-250 words/45pts)
posted by Bunje at 3/27/2007 06:43:00 PM
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What people think and say sometimes makes me question myslef and my decisions. But then i think I am who I am and I cant take actions or words back. I am goin to stay true to myself no matter what its my life and if they want to talk about things they think i do or am thats okay with me.To an extent. My frineds look at me as a free individual who always takes risks and lives on the edge. Im always making jokes and people think i am taking few things really serious. The truth is Im free but Im focused I do take things serious I know when its the right situations. I can be smart and focused. Right now I think my focuses are scattered between frineds,schoool, summer, and the weekends...I think in the future I will buckle down and focus on my career and the things that will shape me in the bussiness industry.
People see me in alot of ways i tkae it too heart sometimes but I usually dont care too much. Im not goin to change who I am because people see me or judge me in their own ways. Other peoples perceptions to me honestly do effect who I am but not that drastically. In the end I think that I will not have much intentions on shaping myself for the pefrecting of the perceptions othgers may have on me. Too my knowlede....well I hope all the perceptions of me are dedent if not then there is not too much I can do but tell those people to get to know me or ask me about somethings they may want to know. <3
who people see me as and who i see myself as are two diffrent views. i see myself as an outgoing funny and energetic person. people that dont know me or know about see me as someone whos stuck up and mean and is in trouable all the tyme and thats not what i want them to see me as cause once you get to know me im the sweetest person in the world. Pople dont want to get to know because of the way people persive me as and how they think i act. but all i can say is take me as i am and dont just judge me from my looks but from my actions as well. It hurts when pople percieve me as something that im not but at my age ive learned to deal with it but once they got to know me they figured out that "what people say isnt always how it really is" and i beleave that statement right there is the greatest statement ever cause its the truth.hopefully in the future people will see the real me.
I see myself as an average kid. I do believe I have potential, but everybody has potential. Not too many people make fun of me or tell me negative things about myself. Sadly, I make fun of people too much. I also mess with people alot. I guess I've learned too much from Bryan Tomasello. If you don't know who that is, he's the biggest bully in the school. But he's still cool. Whenever he's in the premises, I am ready to defend myself from punches, slaps, titty twisters, ball taps and everything you can think of. I have a decent amount of friends. I can trust them and what they say about me definately affects who I am. However, if they call me an asshole. I'll just call them an asshole back. That's just how it goes. I am never serious and can't take too much literally. I mess around too much and rarely say anything that's that important. Some people might think differently than that, but I guess I need some self esteem. I'll take Jeff smith as an example. We always punch the crap out of eachother, but nobody cares. Like, we start inflicting serious pain on eachother. That's just how we roll I guess.
as far as im concerned peoples opinions and perception of me doesn't really shape what i think of myself however. when people i actually care about think of me as a certain way or when people expect me to act a certain way. smoetimes i might act that way. thats not to say that if someone says something negative im going to change for that person. but at the same time i take constructive criticisum well. so in the grand scheme of things i care a little what people think of me but i wont let their opinions shape the way i life my life
peoples perceptions and thoughts dont really contribute to who i am. people always tell you what they think about you and it dosent really phase me, its not gonna change how i think about myself. sometimes they tell you what you are and you know that you can be better than that and actually prove it to them. At the moment i dont thinki can be any better of a person right now, my perception of myself is at the top of its game, and no ones perception of me can change that.
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Probably like most people im not affected by what other people think i am or what they say. The people that know me, know that i dont get affected in any way whatsoever of what people think. People that tell me how i am are just the same as the annoying, obnoxious people that i dont give any heed to besides telling them to be quiet and the rare giving of the bird. I really couldn't care less what people think about me, whether its good or bad, i only care about my own opinions and views. If i see myself as a nerd, lazy, smartass, or anything of that nature i would change it if i felt i didnt like that part of me. I see myself playing too many games and i stop immeadiately to avoid having my inner conscience and myself thinking im a nerd. Some peices of myself that people don't like me being lazy and a smartass i like in me and i keep it that way. As for what people close to me think i am and could be, they couldnt be more wrong, only i know what my potential is and what i can do. Difference between what i am now and what i think i can be, probably much to your disappoint is only for me to know as of now, you will know once i become what i know i can be. People's perceptions are just phantasms that hang around for brief moments that give me a little entertainment and laughs. I get a lot of laughs out of people thinking that they know me and what i act like since i only let people see what i want them to see. If i had to give those people a little estimate of how much of myself i show i would say less than a third. Only place where i show at least a third is in my writing which basically is showing my bottomless pit of imagination and creativity that i briefly tap into to get done what i need to. I may bring out my full creativity one day but it wont be for public viewing just for me to ponder at. As most people have guessed that have read this, im a very inward type of person and rarely let anyone know me. In all truth no one knows the real me, not my friends, parents, siblings, rivals, or my old girlfriends. I think i do this to keep people guessing to give me a few laughs. In all likeliness and possibility i think i dont show myself because no one i've met deserves to see the true me. Maybe no one will ever see the true me, well one "person" does know who i am, but ill have to wait and see what he/she/it thinks who i am. Yes im talking about god for those wondering what im talking about. As i answer these questions about influences of other people's perceptions and how they affect you, it just doesnt really affect me since no one knows me. Someone affecting by saying something about the persona and bits and peices of me that i let them see is like dumping cold water on me when in a pool, i just laugh at them and it floats away with the rest of the water. im not the type of person to reveal my true self to anyone and when something comes up to reveal myself i write something else to appease the person's curiousity but its almost or completely fake. Since i dont like to lie verbally, i just don't tell people anything about me verbally or read what i wrote about the persona i decided to show in that instance. So yeah, no one can affect me since they dont know me at all and it will always be that way. I guess you could say in a way i just make a persona to have conversations and laughs to pass the time. I havent changed personas in about 3 years, i kind of like the one im using now but its not me hehe.
Well i see myself as a very mature and important individual to my family. Only because i am the oldest and im the first one to go to college and have my on life. My parents help me through all of my goals and have always been there for me. I have the ability to be someone. Its only a matter of time until my time is reached. But until then i will keep doing wat i am doing. If u dont care about oother people how are they gonna help you threw everything. People get hurt every day by this but to me it does not matter it makes me a stronger individual. I love drama because it makes you stronger.........Thats all im glad to have a very good family.....Peeeeaaaccccceeeeee
Today in our life time kids can be very cruel one another. but the thing is that kids shouldn't be worrying about what other kids say about them. Every day kids have new haters and old ones and i know some of you guys can realte to what i'm saying. That's just that type of person who i am. the one doesn't care what other people have to say about to me because i don't need someone to tell me who i am. Well everyone in my family knows that i'm the only one out of nine brothers and sisters. That i'm the only who lives in America and that i'm going to college to take art. But some of my family back home really do think that i'm just like my mother and will not sucessed in life. I mean, that your family should be happy for you and be helping you along the with you as you grow-up and mature into a young adult.There are times where people's words can have an effect on me in either good or bad way. depending on what they say something bad about my personality when they may not even know anything about me in the first place. but i think that your family is the true people who knows who you are better than your friends. Even though you and your friends are really close and you know each other very well. Only your family knows you because their the ones who lives with unitl your an adult. Thier the ones who known you since you were a little baby and until the rest of your life.
Most of the time, what people think of me doesn't really matter to me, i mean i am who i am and if they have a problem with it then okay i donut mind just don't sit there and rub it in, because its not gonna make me want to change who i am, and its definitely not going to change me in anyway. I mean who i am right now could use a little changing, but for the most part i love who i am.
well the way people think of me really does contribute to what i think of myself.if they speak badly of me i think ok, im a bad person or im known to do bad things.if they think oh she is soo sweet soo smart etc thats what i might try and live up to be.despite what they think i can be, its their opinon i know i could be the next president,doctor,lawyer,etc its what im believing in myself and the motivation i give myself.if right now im thinking im very motivated,genuine,honest,whatever and people say other wise,ok thats them and this is me.everyone has a way of identifying themself as a person to live there dreams and act and say as they feel.such as people can say you are a slacker,but you may feel that you are doing the best that you can and working to your ability.well up to an extent i will take what people say about me into consideration but i cant let it bother me or take over what i feel,because than i wont be my own person.On my way to figuring out who i am it helps to have people to observe and people that will try and change you,in the end you will realized thats not who you really are and come to a realization of who you are as a person.
well the way people think of me really does contribute to what i think of myself.if they speak badly of me i think ok, im a bad person or im known to do bad things.if they think oh she is soo sweet soo smart etc thats what i might try and live up to be.despite what they think i can be, its their opinon i know i could be the next president,doctor,lawyer,etc its what im believing in myself and the motivation i give myself.if right now im thinking im very motivated,genuine,honest,whatever and people say other wise,ok thats them and this is me.everyone has a way of identifying themself as a person to live there dreams and act and say as they feel.such as people can say you are a slacker,but you may feel that you are doing the best that you can and working to your ability.well up to an extent i will take what people say about me into consideration but i cant let it bother me or take over what i feel,because than i wont be my own person.On my way to figuring out who i am it helps to have people to observe and people that will try and change you,in the end you will realized thats not who you really are and come to a realization of who you are as a person.
it depends on what people think of me that affects my self concept. if people think of me as this mean person thats loud and obnoxious than that bothers me, because I kno that I'm not known for that, even though I can act it sometimes. if people think of me as this person that does well in life and has strong morals and whatever else, thats fine with me. but to be honest, I tend to not really care what people think of me because I kno who I am and if you REALLY kno me, you kno who I am too. I think that I'm an honest person that's very mature and knows how to handle certain situations well and I freely speak my mind. at times I can be rude and at times I can get in people's faces, but thats not too often. you have to do something extreme to get me really mad. but what I CAN be is more caring of other people because I think I tend to think more about myself and my feelings in the outcome of a situation instead of thinking about the other people involved. its a habit, and its also a process to try to break the habit. I kno who I am and I kno who I wanna be and I'm pretty sure I kno what I'm gonna be. everything is up to me, not other people. they can think about me whatever way they want, as long as they kno that their negative opinions are break me from becoming a better person from their negativity. I'M STRONG PEOPLE! I KNOW THIS! :]
I don't care about what people think of me. If someone dose not like me for me I don't really care. If they like me then cool. I think of myself as a person. If someone doesn’t like that then that's good for him or her. The differences between they think of me and what I think I am is that I know myself better than my friends, family and teachers. I can be what ever I want to be. Right now at the moment I think I can change a little. I just don't have much care to make the change. Sometimes I take other people's consideration seriously but most of the time I ignore it. I don't care how other people see me. I don't really pay attention 85 percent of the time.
Most of my family, friends, and teacher think i'm some dumb meat head jock. exccept fo mr. erny since hes my football coach, but i don't see what is so wrong with having sports asa big part of your lif.It better than going home evry day and smoking pot, atleast were staying active. I think if i put the same effort i put into lifting for football or wrestling in the off- season, I could be a stright A student. I really don't care what people think of me, beacause nobody is perfect. So who are you to judge me. itte im out
peace bunje
alot of people think im a lazy bum,a bad ass,i guess because where i come from,some people think im smart.half of my peers think one way half think another of me i think im very good hard working person,the things that people say nd think of me that i hear makes me focus on it more and you can tell by the way i act afterwards and try nd make myself better because i hate when people think negatively of me.
People think that I'm the werid, quite girl that likes to sit in corners alot. Those people like to point out the obvious...alot. I'm not the werid quite girl because people think that of me. I've always been that way because i wanted it to be that way. I can be loud and annoying, but that would annoy even myself. I believe and I am who i am, inside and out but i would like to be alittle bit more observent about what i do to my body because in the long run i will regret it, but sometimes i can't help myself.I dont really give a crap what people think of me because it just waste my time and I have noticed something about people who care about what people say about them, they like to start drama. Another thing i do not do. Sure in my job it might be important to make myself alittle more presentable to my boss might not fire me. Personaly, who really cares what people say about you or anything like that. Because eventully you'll be gone and your life wont matter. Just like the person before you. Everyone dies, eventully you will be forgotten, and no one will care. Unless you get the lucky ones that really did something like the GREEKS or the ROMANS...but their only remembered for their idea..and afew people..but no one really remembers anyone else in ROME or GREECE. So, my question for you is, Why bother with caring what people think about you in a world where people are more concerted about themselves then you or the world around them?
PS-I agree with Alex T on this one (smily face here)
this is an interesting blog ms. bunje. and as for my opinon goes i could care a less what people think about me either. they can love me or hate me. i'm me and if i think that i need to change, i'll possible consider it but lately i dont think that i need to. i have dealt with so many problems with popularity and other things that it was just blown all out or porportion. i hate how people lable you. everyone is thier own person. and you never know, one day someone can say something about you and dont actually mean it but then scar the other person for life because you have no idea what is going on in the other persons life. it's just so unfair how people can judge others so quickly without getting to fully know them. this world today is really starting to get bad. people these days just need to grow up.
Mirros I hate them, what you want to see is not exactely what you are going to see. I never use to like who I was or what I looked like for the longest, probably because my body developed differently then everyone else's. Ever since I was in the second grade I always was told that I was ugly and I didn't understand how come no guys wanted to date me. Things that people use to say I use to take seriously and not be able to blow it off, I get told this alot that I shouldn't take stuff so seriously. For majority of my life I always tired to fit in or be the look that was in and I really didn't know my own identity for a long time. My parents have always had a big impact on what my sister and I could be and what we are as of right now in time. I would have to say that if my parents did not be strict on me or except alot from me and my sister to make me the best that I can be the same with my sister. The difference between what I am right now and what I can be is the matter of maturity that I will gradually grow from, from college and hopefully getting married and so on, but who I am right now and who I want to be are going to be two different people that I hope when I get older that I won't forget who I really was and what I think now won't change. Everyone's thoughts to me were everything until I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and I went to my grandparents in another state I turned my cell phone off and left the problems and everyones word behind me. I went there to find out who I was, I now can strongly say that I know how I am . So as i said early that I use to hate mirrors now I don't because I am who I am and I cannot change that. I'm very comfortable in my own skin, I hope some day everyone else can be too.
When people think I'm something, it makes me feel like I have to be like that. Even if I'm not. Everyone sees me as the quiet, shy, and smart. But in real life I can be very loud and obnoxios. Some peole say that I can do better in school, but I really can't. I take people's perception of me seriously because I think if everyone sees you as the nice, quiet and honest girl.Than why not be it. Since everyone sees you like that. Sometimes don't take the bad perception of you. If you do you might be heading down the wrong path.
What people think of me ; hm . I'm trying to actually work on not letting what people say get to me . and my closest friends say i'm not too good at that . I'm not going to lie , i normally do take what people say to heart , and it hurts . i'm self-concious about myself and my body , i try my hardest not to show it though, but when people say things or make fun of me it puts me down even if theyre not serious . Sometimes when people say things that i know isn't truee, i still even ask myself the same question , and like we talked about in class awhile ago , i think hm , am i really like that ? What i think of myself and what others think of me is different , i can think of a few examples right now . but , like i said before i'm trying to not let it bother me, and change my opinion . But, it does bother me when people judge me on what they hear instead of getting to know me . But, i came to realize that it doesn't matter what other people think of me , it's what i think of myself, and who i think i am .
What people think and say sometimes makes me wonder about myself. After I have my "freak out" moment, I remember that I am goin to stay true to myself no matter what. Sure sometimes their opinions about me I do take into consideration, but most of the time I just tune them out. If someone walks up to me and says,"Oh I just love your earrings," I take that as a compliment and go on with my life. Regarding what my friends think of me, I do actually care what they say and think about me. First of all if they thought that I had a bad personality, they wouldn't be my friends to begin with. My family thinks that I'm an easy-going person that likes to make a lot of jokes. You could always find me laughing,smiling,and cracking on people,in a nice way though:) They also know that when it comes down to business, I know how to buckle down, get my work done first, and then play. Teachers see right from the start that I'm a smart individual by the work that I hand in. They rarely see me laughing though, because I try to be as serious as I can, unless they catch me around my friends,now that's a whole different story.
People see me in a lot of different ways. Some of them are quirky,funny,and sarcastic. You could almost never ever see me be mean to another person. Rarely do I ever take what oeople say really too heart. No matter what they can say about me,even if it may bring me to tears, I will not change myself because people judge me in their own little ways. It is not my fault that they may have a problem with me. If they KNOW me, then they would see that I am a generally nice person all around who doesn't go looking for trouble.
WELL I DONT REALLY LET WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME GET TO ME. I AM MY OWN PERSON. "THEY" THINK THAT I AM A VERY LOUD, SWEET, ENERGETIC PERSON THAT DOES HER WORK AND, AT THE SAME TIME, LOVES TO HAVE FUN. "THEY" KNOW THAT I CAN GO TO COLLEGE AND GET A DEGREE TO BE SOMEBODY AND MAKE A LIFE FOR MYSELF AND MAKE A FAMILY. I THINK THAT I CAN BE SO MUCH MORE AND THAT I CAN CONTRIBUTE MORE TO LIFE. I CAN PUT A SMILE ON SOME FACES AND MEET NEW PEOPLE. I CAN CHANGE PEOPLE FOR THE BETTER AND LEARN FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S MISTAKES AS WELL AS MINE. MANY PEOPLE CAN HELP ME AND KEEP ME ON THE RIGHT PATH TOO. I KNOW THAT I CAN BE WHATEVER I WANT TO BE WHEN I GET OLDER. I AM THE MIDDLE CHILD OF ONLY THREE [I WISH THERE WERE MORE OF US] AND MY BROTHER DIDNT END UP GOING TO COLLEGE. I CAN START THAT WHOLE COLLEGE GENERATION FOR MY YOUNGER SISTER AND SHOW HER WHAT CAN FORM HER LIFE SO THAT SHE CAN MAKE A LIFE FOR HERSELF. WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF ME CAN SOMEWHAT FORM THE PERSON THAT I AM. THE WAY I INTERACT WITH OTHERS CAN ALSO MAKE ME A BETTER PERSON. PEOPLE THAT ARE RUDE AND PEOPLE THAT SHOW ME THE RESPECT I GIVE THEM CAN BRING OUT THE REAL ME. I AM JUST A GENUINE, SWEET, LOVING PERSON THAT WANTS THE SAME RESPECT GIVEN, BUT SOMEONE THAT WANTS ME TO CHANGE FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS WILL DEFINITELY NOT CHANGE ME. I WILL NOT CHANGE FOR THE LIKING OF SOMEONE ELSE. MY GOOD FRIENDS AND MY FAMILY MIGHT TELL ME SOMETHING THAT I MOST LIKELY MIGHT AGREE WITH ABOUT MYSELF AND I MIGHT TAKE THAT INTO CONSIDERATION. PEOPLE THAT DONT KNOW ME AND DONT KNOW WHAT IM ABOUT WILL NOT CHANGE ME TO FIT IN WITH THEM BECAUSE THEY ARENT TRUE AND WANT ME TO FIT IN WITH THEIR CROWD. IF THEIR CROWD DONT LIKE THE PERSON I AM THEN I WILL NOT STOP TO BE LIKE THEM BECAUSE I AM ME AND I LIKE THE WAY I AM AT THE MOMENT. THERE IS NO POINT FOR ME TO CHANGE THE PERSON I AM WHEN I AM FINE THE WAY I AM!
EVERYBODY HAS FEELING AND EVERBODY WANT TO FIT IN SO IF SOMEONE WAS TALKING ABOUT YOU AND YOU THOUGHT YOU WAS SO FLY SO CUTE YOU WOULD FEEL REALLY CRUSHED BECAUSE YOU WORK SO HARD JUST TO LOOK GOOD TO HAVE SOMEONE SAY YOU DON'T. THAT WOULD REALLY HURT SOMEONE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE. EVERYBODY KNOWS YOU BUT KNOW BODY KNOWS YOU AS WELL AS YOU KNOW YOURSELF AND NOBODY REALLY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE CAPEILBE OF DOING.(AND I KNOW I SPELLED IT WRONG DON'T TAKE OFF POINTS)WITHOUT LIEING I WOULD SAY ABOUT 50% OF THE TIME I TAKE OTHER PEOPLE PRECEPTIONS OF BE INTO DEEP CONSIRATION BUT I DON'T KNOW WHY BECAUSE I DONT PUT ANYBODY AHEAD OF ME SO I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHY I DO. BUT AFTER READING THIS I FEEL THAT I SHOULDN'T CARE ANYMORE BECAUSE THIS QUESTION MADE ME REIZLE THAT I AM 100%BETTER THAN I THINK I AM AND THAT I SHOULDN'T CARE WHAT POEPLE THINK.
Well... It pretty much depends on the person if it's a friend or family member I may care or show some sort of sympathy to what there opinions of me are but, if it's like a place other than home like school I could care less mainly because I don't give myself in that way nor do I share my views to others cause at the end of the day I really don't feel that they deserve it. I'm sure many people don't think I can do much or, may feel I will become absoulutely nothing but, they don't know me. I know who I am and I certaintly know my capabilities. You ask how much do I take other peolpe's perception of myself into consideration. Never really maybe, once in a blue moon if I'm strongly feeling self conscious about something. Overall I think that if you spend the rest of your life worrying and caring about what others think about you. In general you will never find yourself
i dont think for me it matters for what people would really have to say because i havent changed in a long time. what someone says about me doesnt change the way i think about myself because i like the way i am. the difference on what people think and what u can be is that one is someones oppinion about u and what u can be is what u set out to do on ur own. for me i dont think there is a difference on how i think of myself and what i think i can be. i dont really take other peoples concept of what they think of in consideration because if u dont like how i am that isnt really much of my problem.
Their are some people who say a lot of things about me mainly because of my decisions, appearance and personality. You could probably say most are negative because its easier to say negative things then positive things. But most of the time i just ignore things thing because i KNOW I'm better then what they say i am. But sometimes when i hear people say negative things about me i could careless at the moment but they'' stick longer because you'll think about them later on and then you wont stop thinking about them, then you'll start to believe in what they say about you.
To be honest, it depends on the day I'm having, on my mood because when im upset or angry i think about my day and what people said and then i could start thinking negative thoughts about my own self because of them.
For me, the environment in which i am subjected to & the people that surround me effect many of my decisons & self perceptions.
I feel that when it comes to your home environment, it can greatly shape who u r & what u bcome. Your family can really make u into who u eventually are because they behave as theyr family behaves, up to a certain point.
When it comes to how other people think of me, be it family or friends, I am greatly influenced by anything they may say, be it positive or negative. Their judgements can really make me re-evaluate me & my life. This is because of my self-conscious nature. When it comes to what people think i mite b; people may think one thing but the truth could be completely opposite. And though their opinions of me might very well make me re-think certain things, i ultimately know that it really wont matter what some people think because thats just how they are.
I know some people may think one thing but to me it doesnt matter much because it doesnt much change the fact of what i want to be in life.
In the end i think that while for some, what other people might perceive them to be might greatly effect how they behave & such, there r others who realize they cant let that deter them from their real dreams & goals
For the most part I don’t care what people think about me. I mean if someone doesn’t like me than fine. I never said they had to talk to me or be my friend or what not. However, for some people I know it is the other way around. Some people take everything someone says and acts upon it. For example, if someone said I only like people who wear a certain brand of clothes the other person would go out and buy that brand of clothes, just so that they fit in with that person. For me it’s the opposite if someone told me that they didn’t like me because I wore a certain type of clothing I would just be like ewe screw you and wouldn’t want anything to do with that person. But in some cases I might agree with what others say about me. For example, if someone told me that I could do better that what I was actually doing. I would consider how I have been doing things and see what I would do to try to improve on the things. I believe that I’m going to change a lot through out time however; I don’t think my option on as to what I think about people’s opinions on me will change ever. Looking back on what people have said about me in the past have let me realize some things they say are true and some things are not, which made me into the person I am today.
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Personally for me i feel as if i do care a good amount to what people think about me. I mean i dont live day to day wondering and worrying what people think about me its just that i want them to have a good perseption of me. I dont want them to be looking down on me and makeing me feel insaperior. i want to be looked at in a good way. I mean i think every one cares what people think about them just more than others. To me i feel like on a scale of 1 to 10 i feel like i am a 3 on careing what people think of me.
THIS QUESTION TOOK SOME THINKING. WHAT THEY THE PEOPLE SAY IS WHAT THEY SEE AND WHAT THEY THINK OF YOU FROM SEEING YOU ON AN AVERAGE DAILY. IF YOU COME TO SCHOOL NOT CARING HOW YOU LOOK AND YOU COME LOOKING BUMMY EVERY DAY PEOPLE WILL SAY THAT PERSON IS SO LAZY THEY CANT EVEN LOOK NICE TO COME TO SCHOOL; THEY ARENT GETTING ANYWHERE IN LIFE WITH THAT LAZINESS ETC. BUT JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE SEE YOU A CERTAIN WAY DOES NOT MEAN THAT, THAT IS HOW YOU ARE. EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT GO TO SCHOOL LIKE THAT THOSE WHO SEE YOU THAT WAY DO NOT KNOW THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF ACHIEVEING MANY THINGS IN LIFE. WHAT THEY THINK REALLY SHOULDNT MATTER TO ANYONE BECAUSE WHAT YOU CAN BE IS WHATS IMPORTANT. THE DIFFERENCE IS THAT YOU CAN BE WHAT EVER YOU DESIRE TO BE AND WHAT THEY THINK YOU ARE IS JUST A THOUGHT FROM WHAT THEY SEE FROM YOU EVERYDAY. WHAT THEY THINK YOU ARE CAN BE CHANGED BECAUSE ITS JUST AN OPINION. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT I AM RIGHT NOW AND WHAT I CAN BE IS THAT RIGHT NOW I MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO DO OR BECOME SOEMONE PROFESSIONAL JOB WISE BUT WHEN I GET OLDER I CAN BE WHAT EVER I CHOOSE TO BE. RIGHT NOW I AM JUST A SOPHMORE AT OHS LIVING IN A MIDDLE CLASS FAMILY BUT I CAN BECOME SO MUCH MORE LIKE A PEDIATRICIAN, A CORRECTION OFFICER, OR ANYTHING I CHOSE TO DO IN LIFE. I TRY NOT TO LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT ME AND I TRY NOT TO SHAPE MY LIFE JUST SO I CAN BE WHAT OTHERS WANT ME TO BE. I CARE WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT ME BECAUSE I DONT WANT ANYONE TALKING TRASH ABOUT ME OR ANYTHING BAD AT THAT MATTER. BUT I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE LIKE THAT. IF YOU HEAR SOMEONE SAY OO HE'S UGLY OR SHE'S UGLY YOUR GOING TO FEEL A LITTLE UNCONFIDENT ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOU ARE GOING TO TRY TO CHANGE YOURSELF TO LOOK BETTER BUT I THINK THAT MOST OF US TEENAGERS ARE LIKE THAT. SOMETIMES WHEN THINGS LIKE THAT HAPPEN YOU HAVE TO THINK TO YOURSELF YOU ARE UGLY AND YOU A PRETTY BECAUSE EVERYONE SEE'S YOU DIFFERENTLY SO FOR SOMEONE WHO MAY THINK YOU LOOK UGLY THEIR FRIEND MIGHT THINK YOU LOOK GOOD. BUT I THINK THAT PEOPLE SHOULDNT LIVE TO PLEASE OTHERS ITS OKAY TO CARE ABOUT WHAT IS BEING SAID ABOUT YOU BUT TO CHANGE JUST TO PLEASE SOMEONE ELSE IS NOT REALLY GOOD EVEN THOUGH ALOT OF US MAY DO THAT AT TIMES. SO ITS SOMEWHAT IMPORTANT TO ME HOW PEOPLE SEE ME BUT I AM WHO I AM AND I WONT SHAPE MY LIFE JUST TO FILL SOMEONE ELSE'S NEEDS. IF SOMEONE DOESNT LIKE ME SO BE IT AND IF THEY DO GREAT. YOU JUST HAVE TO CARE ABOUT KEEPPING YOUR NAME CLEAN BECAUSE THE BAD THINGS THAT PEOPLE SAY CAN AFFECT YOU IN THE FUTURE AND THATS WHY YOU HAVE TO ATLEAST CARE A LITTLE. LIFE ISNT ABOUT PLEASING OTHERS BUT PLEASING YOURSELF.
well, i belive that who i truly am is how i act around my family and friends. im comfortable and i am the way i am around them becuase of my comfort level with them. i do and say what i feel becuase i know they will understand me or it least try. to most of my teachers, i think they think im the quiet calm girl when really they have no idea who i am. im really loud and crazy and i dont know when to shut up. i believe that i can be a person who tries harder and works more towards goals. instead i just go with my everyday life and worry about little things thatr i shouldnt care about as much as i do. people look at people and automatically judge them. i know i do it, but i try not too. its hard cause you look at someone and you think oh they look smart or they look dumb when really its probably the complete opposite. i can sit here and say what other people think doesnt matter to me. but in all reality it does. like it bothers me ALOT when someone thinks they know me and they dont know anything about me at all and they dont try too. what people think kind of shapes what i think. depending on what it is. like if someone talks about how i look than they can screw off because i liek how i dress and how i look but i dont like when people label how you are. people dont know me so they shouldnt say anything unless they know its true. someone cant define who they think i am becuase they will never know unless they get to know me. i believe that to figure out who i am takes me to find that out becuase no one else can. i cant let other people tell me how im going to live, i need to figure out on my own. in the grand scheme of me figuring out who i am is all left up to me. no one else, because if it was left up to them than i wouldnt be amanda lee 8)
Yeah man, this question got me thinking. ;/ I'm pretty sure that "they" think I am lazy, quiet, sexy, and probably not fun. But my friends would probably disagree with that, I am pretty loud, funny, active, but still sexy (lol). But yeah, I honestly don't care what people think about me, unless it isn't negative. I'll have to be honest with that. I really don't live my life off of these peoples perspectives about me, I live for me, I do me. I think I'm fine, I regret nothing I do, so pretty much I am satisfied with everything I have done in my life. I am what I can be, wait forget that. I could do better in school in stuff like that, and I know it. But other than that, I usually feed off those negative points of views towards me, it some what inspires me to do better. SO yeah
The real me is who i am when i am around people that i actually care about, and they care actually care about me, there is none of that fake crap. Most people do not know me for me, and never will. I hate when people try to act like they know me and they really have no clue what-so-ever. I hate when people try to tell me what to do or when people expect too much out of me, because i only know what i am capable of doing, and i think they shouldn't have a say in it at all; just because they screwed up their life or didn't accomplish their dreams doesn't mean that they have to push me into doing the impossible, that is why it is called the IMPOSSIBLE, because its not meant to do. There is a part of me that cares what people think about me, and there is also a part that doesn't give a crap. I guess it depends on who says it or not. I sometimes consider making changes to myself after hearing the either positive or negative feedback. Most of the time, when someone says something, for the most part i just laugh. It depends on the type of relationship that I have with the person. If it is someone that i tend not to like or i don't even know, i am most likely to laugh at their opinions and not care. If i do not like you, i don't care what you say, you don't matter one bit to me, and the chances are that you haven't even taken a moment to look at yourself. can you say hypocrite? the opinions of the ones that i greatly appreciate, are the ones that i will most likely take to heart. i think that is because i trust them and care about them and i value their opinion. those are the ones that i will probably make a consideration about, even if the feedback is positive or negative. the reason that i take their opinions to heart is because it can benefit me in the long run. I think that if i put my mind to it, i can be whatever my heart wants me to be, if that made any sense at all. At this moment in time i don't really completely know who i am , and i don't want to figure it out right now because i still have my whole life ahead of me and i haven't had any real life altering experiences that will make me who i am or will be in the future. i do have a sense of who i am though, but i cannot come to any conclusions or assumptions because I'm not done with my life yet. i really don't think this matters anyway, as long as you are being true to yourself. I am who i am, and if you don't like it, SCREW OFF, thats how i like to think of it.
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I think that every one have different characteristics and they just show it in different ways. i know who i am and i wouldnt like nobody to tell me who i am because i will get piss and we would proably end of fighting. i dont care who you are if you hate me be my guest thats not gonna change how i act of look or anything about me. in some peoples eyes i am just a fine, handsome man that go to oakcrest, but in others they might hate. i really dont care about what people think about me. i like me for who i am.
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Personally, I perceive myself as an intelligent, funny, and outgoing girl. I love how I can make people laugh. Then comes haters. These are people who don't like you for who you are, ususally because of jealousy. I have a few of those. I think they think they bring me down, however, I really don't care. For example, when I'm at work and there's someone eyeing me down like they just are looking for something rude to say, I just smile and wave or blow a kiss their way. Why can't I just be cute? Why must they search" for something to say. Obviously, if you must sit their and ponder about something rude to say, your just mad. I love people like that. Also, what people say can sometimes affect my life. It definitely depends on what they say. I come to school in a very presentable fashion. I do this to maintain a good reputation. It's not that I come to school to impress people, because that's not my job. Also, I dont impress people because there's no one to impress in Oakcrest High School. I present myself they way I do because I don't like people thinking negatively about me. If I came in the same sweats everyday, people would think negatively about me, something I hate.What they think is different from what I know. I have no clue what they think, but I know the person I am. How couldn't you like me? I'm a good friend and a good person. Maybe thats the reason. Fake people stay with fake people! That's the answer! I'm not fake so I dont attract fake people to me. Yipee! lol. I know I can be an indepnedentt woman in the future. I see myself doing a lot of things on my own with ease. I need no one's help to realize that. So, people's perception's aren't really taken into considerartion, althogh some people believe everything everyone says.Example, if some one calls you a ho, after time, you began to think, Damn, maybe I am a ho. It's crazy. People shouldn't think this way. I don't. I am who I am. You can't change me. Ha!
I think who people think you are and who you can be are two totally different things I think you have to some one deepest secret to really understand and see the real person your looking at cause they might even be putting up a front of who they are by who they want to be because of that secret. The difference is that who you are is now, your already that person but who you can be is what you can become what you change into. I think, I think about what people say about me not a lot but enough to see if they point out a flaugh I would try to attempt to change it but everybody has flaughs and if I take my whole life trying to fix them I wont have a life. but I do believe I could change to fit a lot of peoples perspective but not everyone’s cause that’s just impossible cause everybody doesn’t like the same thing and I know I shore don’t want to please everybody I meet cause then I would never feel complete cause what about that person I didn’t meet what about him or her what if I think I’m complete and I think I know myself and I meet someone the next day and they think im all wrong then what do I do im suppose to change myself when I’m happy with who I am .no im going to stay me and that’s the way I see the world there are some people who will change for others and care whet others think and say about them and like me there are the other half who think let them say what they want and ill change and edit myself to my perspectives cause why would I change someone else if im not going to see them for my whole life.
I look as my self as a very athletic,hardworking and a mature person.I dont really care about what people think about me because that is what they think that is not what i think. I am not let something get in my way because of what someone else thinks. My parents always told me "its not what other people think about you its what you think about your self" they said that is what is going to keep you moving forward in life and if i doubt my self once than that is going to affect me in many differnt other ways. My parents always told me i was a smart person and im going to make it far in life if i try hard and work hard for what I want. I think many things about other people but i dont say anything because i know its not rite and it might out them down and make them feel bad. I been through many changes in my life and i will choose to make the rite choices mentally and phyically.
Wow, Bunje those are some tough questions..well, i'll start out saying that i'm not sure what everyone think of me. the difference between what others think i am and what i can be depends on the person. some people who don't know me that well might think i can do better things with my life. this is hard to explain. what people think i am is really their opinion. right now, i think that i'm lazy, i believe that i can be anything i want if i work hard enough at it. i can be miss school spirit-gorgeous-generous-athletic-etc..but that's not me. i'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, i really give those who are involved props cuz i dont have that much motivation to be like that. i know that i try not to let other people's opinions about who i am bother me, but i think that's impossible. in trying to find myself, i sometimes act differently arround certain people..so i'd say it does matter to me how others see me. i do know that music is my passion and so is science..i dont know totally who i really am. i explained some traits of mine in the previous blog, but i guess i'll find myself when i least expect it. so i'll leave you with a quote from Sean Danielsen, my favorite artist, "And everything seems great and everyone is fake. No one really knows you. Look into their eyes; rip off your disguise. Let them see the real you." <3!
The difference to me about what “they” think I am and what I no I can be is that im the only person who can show “them”. If I don’t show that I can be someone important and of a high value then who will? Im the only peron who can determine what I can be because no one can say that im going to become someone I don’t want to be. Im the type of person that cares most of the time about what other people think. It depends who its coming from though. My family and friends mean everything to me and their opinons do actually matter to me. Their opinons matter the most to me because they’re the people ive lived with and and care about. They are the people that are gonna be their when I graduate, when I get married and whenever I need them. Even though I do take much consideration of what my family and friends think of me, I try not to use it when it comes to forming my own self-concept. I don’t want to end up being what “they” want. I just want to be like 10% of what they want me to be just so that I know they’ll be happy. And the other 90% is what I wanna be because in the end whos going to be living my life is me and only me and im not going to be living life for someone else. Aslong as my family is happy then im happy too.
Honestly i dont care whether not you like the way i am or not. I couldnt care less if you dont like me or even if you do. If you like me i wont really even consider you a friend but more like an aquaintcence because i will almost never go out of my way to talk to anyone. I will talk to you if i happen to see you but will almost never call anyone or do anything along those lines. well back to the orignal question people thoughts about me wouldn't change the way i was anyway because if i dont like you i wont give it a second thought even if i like you and you told me that i should change i would more than likely ignore you. Right now i consider myself to be a high school JV athlete but think that i should be a high school varsity athlete and so will work towards that end. Right now i know that i am smart enough to join the common military, but i think that i can be smart enough to be a pilot in the air force. The only time that i will ever take someone elses thoughts into consideration is if im doing something that i like, like playing soccer, and they either try to help improve my game or they try and tel me that i cant do something. If they tell me i cant do something i will normally play harder just to prove them wrong and to show them taht tehy cant judge me like they can judge some other people. So obviusly i dont care what peope thimk of me the only thing that i care about is what i think about myself.
Unfortunately it took me so long to answer this blog so it might be too late for a grade but i just wanted to answer anyway. when i look in the mirror i see more than QUIONA SHYNELLE HAWKINS,i can see everythin i want to be and everything im not. when people look at me i have no idea what they see and sometimes i dont care and thats usually my problem. i have a who gives a $%#@ personality. so many people used to say i was sooooooo mean then i got nice and people took advantage of me,so i got mean again. my friends know how i am, and i see it as if they cant except me how i am then we wont be friends for long. also when people look at me they see brown skin, brown hair, brown eye..does that make me BROWN? absolutely NOT!! most people are shocked by the fact that i am very smart and that hurts my damn feelings and most of the time i want to cry my eyes out till no more tears fall. my intelligance is one thing i learned no one can take from me and when people think im not because im loud or funny w/e that may mean i feel sterotyped, like funny and loud people cant be smart, HOW DUMB THEY ARE! i really dont like when people judge me that dont know me, it doesnt really affect me but then i think in the back of my head, hey qui is that who you want to be known as, and the answer is always "Sure,thats just me!" i think im done with this question so when some one says "Quiona" they would see more than just my features or what can only be seen because there is much more to me, trust me, ask anyone who knows me they would tell ya!!
(((QUIONA)))
Let me just start off by saying "I don't care about what people think about me". Most people that have negative thoughts about me don't even know me. And most of them are just haters. People hate because they want something they don't got. High school is where you will find the most. If someone say something negative to me I will know it's because they are jeolous because Most times I like to stay to myself and I don't give people things to talk about. Most times if i have something to say about someone i keep it to myself (sometimes). People can talk all they want, people is going to talk you will always have haters but as soon as somebody touch me it's going to be on and poppin'. There is some peple like my parents that push me to do to much and they believe that i can do it but me and only me know what i can do although I like when they say it because i know there's somebody out there that believe in me. But anyway like i said I don't care about how anybody think of me they can say what they want. It don't matter to me You just have to shake em' haters off.
Well, i dont really think that what others think cahnges my point of view on who i am or what i thimk i can become. I think that others perception should not change what you do, or who you are, or what you can become. If people go around calling you stupid, and deep down inside you know your smart, then you shouldnt limit yourself because others call you stupid, you should not listen to them and apply the skills that YOU know you have! there isnt a difference between what i think i am, and what i think i can be! Im going to be myself forever, and i wont change for other people's self pleasures or because of their oppinions.
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first of all as i said in the blog before they way people perceive me doesnt bother me much. well i cant say that in entirety because then i`d just be lying. i care about how my family and CLOSE friends see me. like i dont ever want to dissappoint them but for other people? definatly not. i dont waste my time tryin to impress people who dont matter to me. well the way my mother sees me is important. i want her to see me be successful and educated. go further in life than she did. not in a bad way. but you know what i mean.and teachers...well most of them dont believe in me. except for mrs bunje && a few others. so i dont really care on how they see me anyways. and my friends well they see me as a goofy girl who can always make me laugh; i have been told i am trustworthy , easy to talk to and a good listener. so i guess thats pretty good for me. =] well the difference between how "they " see me and what i know i can be isnt all that different. except maybe for the teachers. most of them think i will be a failure and not make anything of my life but i will be the one laughin in their face when i own a bigg business or something or maybe even own the retirement homes their old asses will be checkin into. =P i know that i can be anything i want to be as long as i have det ermination and dont let anyone take me down. im not exactly sure WHAT i want to be but i know that whatever it is; i can be that person. its not that important for me to show the people who dont believe in me what i CAN be. but it will be nice to laugh in their faces one day. =]
I think that I am a pretty decent person,not to mean, but maybe a little to nice. I think in the future I can be more evenly balanced with who I am and that I would not have to try to at all to be myself. I guess that other peoples perception of me does not have too much to do with my own self conception, but of course it has some to do with it. If most of the people around me thought that I was a kind hearted person with good intensions than I would most likely see my self in that light also. I guess if I really did not know who I was that what others said that they think about me would mold what I would image myself as. In my opinion they think that I am just a simple kid because I don't let anyone notice that I have any problems going on in my life. But in reality sometimes I think that I need to change and that I can not really help but to hide how I really feel inside.
What people say/think about me dosnt bother me that much im not going to change the way i am just because someone else dosnt like it i am who i am. i dont know what people see me as and not really worried about it. i know that i can be anything i want to be and im not going to let a few words and dislikes stop me. im sure what some people say might make me think a little more on who i really want to be and change the way i think a little. idk this is hard to explain but it also depends on what they say or who says it if its someone really close to me like family of course i want to prove to them that i am going to be something in life. like if they told me i wasnt going to make it past highschool i would take that as just another doubter( if thats a word) and that in a few years i can be like see you didnt think i could do it but look at me now lol. but if someone that isnt close to me says something about me im not going to take it that seriously i mean i will probly think about it and try to improve, but im not going to change for anyone .take me as i am hate me or love me.
I dont think that people should worry about waht other people feel about you. Dont try to base your own image off of other peoples opinions about you. I gotta go the bell just rung. ill do anotha one
Most people like to judge what they see. To be honest I really don’t care what people think of me because I know who I am, what I do, and whom I will become. Since, I could remember I always been judge for the most pointless things; from the way I look, to where I lived, to the school I attended and even by the people I spent most of my time with. I never let things like “name calling” or “hard looks” bother me. I never let rumors bring me down. Growing up not many people believe in me or gave me support that I needed, I had my dad and my older sisters and my close friends. Others saw a girl who wouldn’t have a future, they saw a girl who would drop-out or end up as a teenage-mom, while my dad and older sisters saw me as a girl who would have a better future then they did. I like to impress my family because I love it when they are proud or me. I love proving people wrong just because they think they can judge someone who they don’t even know. No one can determine who I am or who I will become only I can! The way I lived, and grew-up just made me realized that if I didn’t do well in the present I would end up like everyone in my block. Many people when first see me, say that I look as though I have an attitude problem, however my friends seen me as a unique, funny ,nice girl. I don’t know how my teachers see me but hopefully good. When I do hear something bad about me I don't really care. I not perfect and I won't change for no one. I learn to accepted myself and so I don't really need to be accepted by anyone else. Let "them" think what they want!
I pretty much see myself in the eyes in which other people see me in. I take peoples perceptions into considerations most of the time because the way people you trust percieves you is the way you will appear to the rest of the world. In my heart I believe that if you don't take people you trust perception of you then you will people may never see you for what you really are. Say if someone precieves as something worst than what you really are and you believ that you hold yourself better and you decied not to change than people wiill never get to see you for you. The way people think of you is important to a certian exstint. Someone times people are not right and you may get people who judge you for the wrong reason, if so than in that case you do have the right not to take other peoples thoughts into consideration.
what other people have to say about me doesn't effect me so much or atleast i try not to let it get to me. i know when they're right and i know when they're wrong about me. i have no problem proving someone wrong about myself. everyone gets hurt by hateful things about them that's being said though. you move on and as long as you do have some people who care about you in life then why let it bother you. i'm strong about myslef most of the time. i dont like when a lot of people gang up on me though. theres a big difference on who you think you are and what you can be. at this young age kids are still trying to find out who they are but they have dream of who they know they want to be. we all dream big and there will always be hurtful people in the way to try and bring you down but you have to get passed it!
I try to be myself no matter who I am around or what they think of me. I tend to be more respectful around adults than I am around my friends just because adults usually expect more of you when it comes to manners. A lot of adults say that I am outspoken. I am outspoken around everyone. I think that I am a good person. Sometimes, I may say things without thinking. I can be a better person by thinking a lot more before I speak. My own self-concept of me is good. I think very highly of myself. What people think of me does impact how I think of myself. Positive energy towards me increases my self esteem. Negative energy towards me makes me take a step back and look at who I am. If I agree with it, I make a change. If I disagree with it, I take it as jealousy which makes me stronger. No one can say that they what other people think of them truly does not make a difference of how they think of themselves because deep down somewhere in their body, whether it is really positive or really negative, it will be there. Some people don’t like to show it, but it’s there. Taking what people think of you and either accepting it or disagreeing with it is what makes everyone who they are.
I think that my friends think that i am funny, athletic, and maybe sometimes immature but i dont think of myself exactly how they see me as. I dont think im nearly as serious as alot of my friends but that doesnt mean i should be called immature, i just like to see alot of things as funny. In the future i think i can be someone with great potential. Im not sure on what occupation i want when im older but i know i want to further my education in college to allow better job oppertunities so me and my future family could live a good life. How others see me can be important or not so important at all. It depends, i could care less of what my good friends think of me cause then already like me for who i am, but if im trying to make new friends or impress someone then what they will think of me with really matter, but i find myself in that occasion not to many times.
For the most part what people think of me doesn't mean all that much to me. Thats because for the most part people don't really know who i truly am. I put up a false facade, making myself seem simple and not deep, but in reality i am. For those people who do know who i truly am or found out who i truly am, i take their perceptions and thoughts about me into deep consideration and it somewhat sways my opinion of myself. For example, there is this one teacher whom took me aside from the class and told me a should take ap. That truly made me feel smart. As i touched on before, most people don't know at all who i am, so there is a huge difference between what people think of me and what i am. What i think i am and what i think i can be are one in the same, there is no difference. What most people think of me really doesn't mean anything to me, i couldn't care less. They don't truly know me so there opinions aren't valid. Their is a select few people who's perception of me is very important to me and i take it into great consideration.
alot of people may say they do not care what other people think of them but the truly do. it may not be alot but everyone cares what other people thing about them to an extent. like i really dont care much about what people think about be but i care enough to try to be a good kid and treat others kindly. if i did not care at all what others thought of me i would probably be a mean a@# hole that no one liked and everyone tried to avoid at all costs. and that pretty much goes for everyone. so you cant really so u dont entirely care what people think of you cuz even if its not alot, you still do care what pepole think about you. for some people, they base their lives on what other people think about them. like they do whatever they can to be liked or to be popular or to impress people and so on. people like that dont really have many goals except to make others like them. people like that dont go very far in life because their not focused on what they want to do with the rest of their life but rather just impressing people for the rest of their life. i think you should only care about what u think of yourself when it comes to determining who you are and what you want to do with the rest of your life. yeah its okay to follow advice from other but not to the point where their opinions control your life.
People's opinions do affect lives. MY friends and family's opinions matter a lot. For example, if I'm a jerk and they tell me that's great so I can fix it. Or, if they think I'm a good person that's also great because I know I'm doing something right. However, when it comes to what I think I can be other people's opinions don't actually matter that much. I mean they can shoot out as many opinions as they want but what they say cannot put limitations to what I do. However, good feedback on tasks I wish to accomplish can never hurt. Positive thinking in anything can help me do whatever it is. THe difference between who I am right now and who i can be is exactly that. I'm not 1/10th the person I can be. I can be someone who survives on their own. Independent, confident, smart, and powerful. I am a small bit of all of those things but eventually I will be fully all of those things. When it comes to taking other people's perceptions of me into consideration it depends on who it is. For me to take it into consideration they have to be someone I respect as a person. I don't care much for people's opinions that I have no respect for. But for the opinions I do listen to and consider they do affect my perception of myself somewhat.
I believe that the only person that you have to answer to and live up to is yourself. Of course what other people think of me such as my family and my friends may affect me somehow, but to me, knowing that im living the life of my own choice is the most important of all. Since i know myself better than anyone in the world knows me, i am able to see what and who i want to be in the future which no other person is able to do. Therefore, although people might judge me and tell me the person that i can be later on in life just by knowing the person that i am now(at age 15) doesnt impact me much. I know that the person i am and continue to be is shaping the person that i will grow up to be,hopefully wiser and more experienced. I live each day carefully but who doesnt make mistakes? I think that in order to become the person the I would like to be, it is cricial as i grow up to learn from my mistakes, take into consdieration other peoples perspectives, and find myself while doing so. I set no limits for myself because i know that my potential is and always will be at it's greatest ability. No matter what others try convincing me of, i know that the only way to discover happiness is to be who i want to be and whatever my heart desires, while learning along the way.
Even though I'm doing this blog late I thought about this question not even realizing it. I was laying in bed with my sister and we started talking and I asked her if she thought I depended on my looks to much. She thought it was a random question for me to ask, but it's really something I think about quite often. Most people think that I am happy with myself and my appearance but sometimes the prettier you are the more insecure you are, some might not believe it but I'm a very insecure person. Not to long ago I had someone tell me that if it wasn't for my looks and my body I wouldn't have any friends and the guys that i talk to now wouldn't give me the time of day. This was comment was hard for me to grasp it hurt but it also made me think maybe thats really all i'm good, my looks and no guy will ever see me for who i really am but just see me as the "hot girl." Sometimes I wish I didn't depend on my looks but i kind of feel like i have to or else I wouldn't get anywhere in life. I know most would disagree but anymore today that's how women are petrayed, for their sex appeal, or at least thats how I feel. Obviously I like to think more of myself than just being pretty and I think sometimes people get the wrong impression about me just because of my looks guys tend to think I'm easy and girls tend to think I'm a slit but thats not the case at all and I can't wait until the day that pretty girls can be seen for more than just their looks.
I'd be a liar if i said what other people think of me/what I can be doesn't effect the person that I am . I am very much my own person , yes , but if I hear something enough , I'll start to wonder " Am I really like that ? " , it's completely possible for what others say about you , to change the way you are , and think about your self . This doesn't happen to all people , but those who aren't completely strong and sure of them selves , need to watch out , because this DOES happen .
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to be totally honest it kind of sucks when you think about it because there is and will always be someone in your path that will try to change the way you are and the way you handle things.this is totally always up to you because if you waste your whole life on what other people say then you will always have that thought in your head that i coulda,shoulda,woulda,but in reality the only person you are affecting when you listen to other people is you.the person that told you to make certain decisions isn't going to do anything but pretend to feel bad and just keep on living there life.people will always feel and say things about you that might not even be true but you know what it doesn't matter what they say because only you know what you are capable of.you just have to be strong minded and set goals for your self because your real friends and your family that cares will be on your side all the way and help you follow threw with your goals and dreams.Be you because that is all you can be great at is being you not the person you pretend to be
I think you should not care about what people say about you but what people say always end up getting to you someway or another. If you keep listening to what people say about you it may get to you but only if you let it. If you listen to what they say you are then you may be put down and you might become that. I think sometimes i listen to it but i will try not to let it get to me, if it gets to me then it will get to me and i will be thinking about it all day. it doesn't really matter what they think about you it is how you take it and either let it get to you, or move on and grow from it.
I know that a lot of different people see me differently than others. Some people see me as a not so nice person but they still might like me cuz I usually make them laugh. Some others just see me as a goofball slacker. Others see me as a goofball martial artist. I am usually always a goofball or knucklehead or retard for one thing or another but I dont let what other people think of me phase me because I like to have fun cuz having fun makes me happy and I see no reason in making my self not happy. though everyone except a select few(ones that see through my goofballyness and others I talk to)people see me as the funny not so bright immature clumsy kid that doesnt stop talking. I dont think i will ever change not because I cant but because I dont want to. I have to much fun doing what I do which I do do a lot of doing. I just do it
Well, refrenceing back to my last (and first! :]) blog post. Most people see me as the 'dumb blonde surfer chick' I try not to let peoples perceptions of me get to me and affect me in any way. Okay I surf. I am a girl. I have blonde hair. How, in anyway, does that make me dumb? I mean yeah; I have my moments; but that does not mean I am dumb. I sometimes just lack the commen sense aspect of the whole thing a little more than others. The bad things you hear are so much easier to believe then the good things... which basically sucks. People sometimes lable me as snobby or stuck up, but that is totally not who I am at all. I am shy if I don't know you, and people always take that the wrong way, weather its classmates, teachers, or even MY BOYFRIENDS MOTHER. But anyway, It has become clear to me that people just need to get to know someone else before sticking lables on their heads. I believe that you should never 'judge a book by its cover.' Different people see me in different ways, my close friends think I am crazy, outgoing, ambitious, and fun. Others who don't know me think I am shy, snobby, and maybe even mean. If someone hears something time and time again, they will start to believe it. Even if it is not who they truely are. Weather we like it or not, what people say about us affects us. Its life. People will constantly be trying to change you, and sometimes it might even work. But I guess we all just need to learn how to stick to one path and stay on it. I know I can write a ton more about this blog, and I will probably go to bed thinking about it tonight but; In conclusion, I WILL NOT change for someone else just because they do not like it- or arn't happy with it. I am who I am, and I am perfectly happy with that.
Over the years I have heard some funny things about me. People tend to think i am antisocial so they give me space. From this i have grown to be a person that needs space. People think I am the kid that doesn’t talk, and doesn’t possess the ability to state my opinion in a loud way but I know if I really wanted to I could yell what i think. Through my eyes right now, I am a very lazy kid who doesn’t put forth the effort that i should. But inside I know I could crack down and really try my hardest. In all honesty i take only a small percent of people’s perceptions into consideration to form my self. Because if I did listen to what people have said id be a homosexual heroin addict (lol). I don’t think people really see the full me and I understand that people don’t so I am always open to someone hanging out and actually seeing who I am.
What other people think of me tends to play a role in the life i live.Of course I say it doesnt bother me but when I go home lay in my bed the first thought that comes to my mind is wow i cant believe they think that.I try to be my own person but i guess with socitey always around it plays a part into who you are.Nobody can fully say they dont care what people think about them.The saying "stick and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" is so false it should be the other way around because you can heal from phyical damage but emtional damage stays there for a while or maybe even forever.Growing up I have found out that negative things that were said to me sticks in my head longer then any positive compliment that I have recieved.People tend to remember the negative more sharply than the positive.So watch what you say to people!
Normally, when my family, friends, teachers, or even enemies say things about me, it won't effect who I am. If someone says I can't do something or that I don't do it right, that won't stop me from doing it. If people say negative things about me as a person I won't change my ways unless I truly am doing something wrong. Its not that I don't take what people say into consideration or that I won't get hurt if people say things about me, I just won't change my ways if they do. I think that right now I am doing the best that I can because i don't stop doing things if people say anything about me. I am going to continue to be this way for the rest of my life because I would hate to pretty much have someone else live my life and tell me what way to act or dress or to do something a certain way. I love exactly who I am and I wouldn't change a thing if I had the chance. I love the things I have and even what I don't. I love my girlfriend and I love my family, all though my family can be annoying or make me mad at times, I still love them obviously. This was not hard at all for a deep thinking question. It took like 5 minutes ms. bunje im not going to lie. Maybe its because im such a fast typer. or a really good depp thinker.
Others people's perceptions of who I am are extremly the oposite of who I am. I have heard people say I'm a smut or a person who thinks she's the best. Well no I'm neither!! My friends warn me like I care of what others say that I am but I dont I dont need them to tell me who I am to know who I am. I dont need to to humiliate me infront of thousands in school or normally behind my back because I dont care of their opinion. I have changed in many ways some good and some bad. Good in a part of finding god and bad not for me but how others took advantage of how nice I use to be. Now I'm stronger and tougher. I can be a person with a heart of gold but since my heart is broken at the momment it can't shine like gold.
Who people think i am isnt who i really am. I really dont care what people say about me but when u hear the same thing over and over again it starts to get old. I am who i am. The diffrence between what i think i am right now and what i think i can be is im lazy i dont like doing homework or classwork or even paying atteiton but i know that i could do all of that its just i get board easily and im lazy asnd just both them things put togather isnt a really good combanation.
I would have to say that, I try not to take what other people say about me personally. Unless, of course, they are my family or my close friends. If someone random comes up to me says stuff that isn't me at all, I just think, "You don't know me," and pretend i didn't even hear it. Also most people think that I am very quiet...which is sort-of true. It all depends on the setting and the mood I'm in. Usually at school, I'm quiet because i just want to get through the day and go home, but outside of school, I can be rather loud and out there. Even ask some of my friends, they'll vouch for me. I guess i go by the old saying, "If you don't have anything good to say, then don't say anything." i think it goes something like that. I'm not 100% sure. Anyway, back to the question at hand, I sometimes take things a little too personally, but some things just get to you after a while. I guess I'm not really sure about how i feel about other peoples' perception of me. Unless you kind find something in the rambling i did above. I guess I am who I am, and that's all that I am. I think that might be a quote from someone, but i'm not sure. If it is, I would give them credit for it, but I don't know who said it. Oh well, I guess that's about it.
If You were to take a look at me in the mirror it would be a illusion. Some people try to push me over and talk to me anyway they want. They the soon find out that im no push over and i have to have the last word. I think i got this tratit from both of my parents the always have to have the last word and so do I. I pick up alot of things from my parents but not everything and i proud. That what makes me Me. When people meet me they gey one the the funny Keith that always makes you laugh the Kind Keith just a alround good person or if i know it is something serious i t act professional.I really talking about sports I put my "gameface" on. Or people get get On my side that wants to kill you but not to many peple get on that side. Thing about that side is nobody stays on this side. Thats makes me even a cooler person. I currently have nobdoy on the evil side. My dad thinks highly of me and expects alot from me. I want to feel all his expectations And I believe I can.I really dont care what people think of me but if a ugly chick said i was ugly i wouldnt care bout if a pretty chick said i was ugly i might think abot it twice. But i dont harp on it.
the only people i care what they think about me is my mother, grand mother, gandfather and my best frined. any otherwise i can careless what people think of me. i mainly think this because those are the closes people i have. and when you love someting so much you care what their thoughts and feelings are. for example if you saw someone on the street and they said eww i don't like the way u dress or you said something to someone you didn't and they told you that they didn't like the way you think wuold you care(uh no) and neith would i and its because their not close to you and you don't know them.
There really is not much of a differnce between what 'they' think and what i can be. First, i really only care what my family, best friend and girlfriend think of me though. My parents are mainly the ones that help me realize who i can be though. Right now i just think that i am an average kid who will succeed through live like just getting through. But my parents push me telling me that i can do anything if i beleive it and they are always telling me that i can become like a good person in life and all that. I dont really take what other people say into consideration, once again i only really care what my family, best freind and girlfriend really try to tell me. But i also care what people think of me as though, like i dont want people to think of me as like some stupid kid that noone likes or something, so yes i care what people think of me somewhat but not all that much.
It depends who it is that is giving their perseption of me. If one of my close friends or family told me something I might listen to it, but if somebody who did not know me that well told me some thing I probably would not listen. I think everybody perception of themselves will change a little bit when someone close to them says something because everybody wants to be liked. I bet a lot of people see me as quiet, but the people that really know me know that I am very talkative outside of school. So unless somebody knows me then I do not care what they think of me because they do not know the real me.
I think that it is very important of what other people think of you becuase you have reputations that stay with you for the rest of your life. Here an example, your a girl at school and you show a good impression on who you are, like the way you dress and what other people say about you like how such a nice, trusting good person you are that will follow along with you for the rest of your life, but if there are some bad things that you have done dressing inaproprytly not really caring of what people think of you and you just dont care about yourself no one will really want to talk to you or give you the respect that you want. To my family it is very important for me to be able to trust me and care about me, showing them that i can take care of my own responsabilitys and showing them that i can do anything that i want to do not giving up on anything, i know that they will always have my back when ever i need help i know they will help me because i respect them and they respect me that is also very important to me. To my friends, i always give them the respect that they deserve and they do the same and thats what really counts because then you know that they will always stand by you and watch you to make sure that your always happy and never down because if your not a good friend then they will screw you over. If you dont care then they dont care. It is importnat for other people to think of me as a good person becuase in the end i'll end up getting what i want and where i need to go in life.
What people think of me is not really do not matter to me that much. I always used to care what people thought of me. Then I had to think another time, how am I going to become what I want to be if I always care what people say? I would get nowhere. People might not think that I am going to do what I want in life because I always worry about other people not what they say just like when they want something I would always try to make people happy and not worry about myself. Putting people before myself, but I do not do that anymore. I would sometimes do it to the ones that treated me like crap, I world still try to make them happy.
I think the difference between what "they" think i am and what i think i am is that i truly know who i am. They are on thry outside looking in. No iam not saying that iam a fake person but that there are things well alot of things that i keep to myself. And there are things that alot of people dont know about me that i just think that i should keep to myself. So i think that they may think different of me then what i think. "they" have a different prospective then what i have. I think people do take into consideration the person iam thats why they say the first impression is a lastin impression. So i think that who iam is kinda diffrent from what people see me as.
I think the difference between what they think and what I can be is, it doesn’t really matter what your friends think. It does matter a little of what your teachers because if they like your personality and what kind of person your are they can put in a couple of good words for a college. What your family think shouldn’t make a difference because they should love you for who you are no matter what, but what you can be it’s what ever you want so however or where you want to be in life is up to you. So the difference between what think and what you can be is they can just think you can work on what you can be all of your life and what you think you can be is just the same as saying what you can be to me. I take other people’s perceptions
in not that much because it doesn’t really matter unless it’s really something that I really need to change about my self.
I think the difference between what they think and what I can be is, it doesn’t really matter what your friends think. It does matter a little of what your teachers because if they like your personality and what kind of person your are they can put in a couple of good words for a college. What your family think shouldn’t make a difference because they should love you for who you are no matter what, but what you can be it’s what ever you want so however or where you want to be in life is up to you. So the difference between what think and what you can be is they can just think you can work on what you can be all of your life and what you think you can be is just the same as saying what you can be to me. I take other people’s perceptions
in not that much because it doesn’t really matter unless it’s really something that I really need to change about my self. So really there really isn’t a difference between the two to me.
I had to read this question a good ten times just to figure out where I wanted to start with this and I don't even wanna begin on how I'm going to end it.
I think a lot of people see me as really smart and that I really could make something big out of myself and make oodles of money and that is what I can be honestly, but it's not what I want to be. I won't ever try to say I'm not smart I know I am but I don't think that's a big part of who I am even though people try to make it that. What other people think changes me none. People can think and they will think, however, this won't change who I am and what I want to make of myself. Other peoples' thoughts just remind me that I'm my own person a product of my own mind and my own passions.
Very good question! Believe it or not, as a teenager your image is very important to you.You can tell yourself constantly that it shouldn't matter what other people think of you but it is very hard not to wonder what they think of you. it is very true that we shouldn't worry about what others think, but in high school what the people think of you can affect you physically. People who are very true to themselves would deal with these kind of situations and stay strong(like our novel we are reading), but it can affect the friends you make and what type of crowd yuo chill with.it really takes alot to overcome this problem and it is all starts in the mind.After a while it can change the way you think of yourself like you might think that you can't ever have a cetain look or do what someone else can do because you think the other people might think you crazy becasue you don't fit in. In reality it is mostly all mentally and you can determine what you can do,because it is all mostly words. I believe that what others think of you don't have nothing to do with what you can be. What you think you are goes hand in hand with what you think you can be. i use to care about what people think of me but as you play the game you relize that at the end no matter what people through out your whole life are always going to judge you.and no matter what they are not held responsible for your outcomes because you control your life they just have the right to talk.
to me i dont think that what other people think i am affects me. lik i have proven people wrong about me doing drugs and they thoght i would and i dont think people whould look at me and think i have and now i am planning to go somewhere in life. i want to go to college and become an arcitectual engeneir. i dont think peoples veiws of what i am will change the fact that i am who i am. i and only i can change what am going to become. i think i will not change for anybody but my self.
My parents think i can be amazing, and get straight A's, be in AP classes but i dont know why they say that becuase i dont think i cam capable. I think i do not try as hard as I should, and my parents are right to a point, but i think they jsut expect too much from me and it jsut gets me so mad. I know i can always do better, like when i look back on a game or schoold work i always tell myself i could hvae just tried a little harder. I consdier alot about what other people say to me, and sometimes it can be bad. I honestly do care what others think about me, and i do not want to be known as someone who ddoes not try hard enough. Sometimes it bothers me, but i think i figured out who i am, and i have a bunch of things to change for the better.
Every day throughout life there is always going to be some one judging you. For as long as I can remember I have always been self-conscious about what other people thought about me, and it has affected my life tremendously. I used to go through life wondering what other people were thinking about me and trying to fit in as much as I could so I wouldn’t have to worry about other people’s perception of me. For example almost every day in school for the past couple of years every one tells me that I’m stupid or I’m a slacker or that I’m never going to get anywhere in life, and I believed it. It wasn’t until just recently that I came to realize that I shouldn’t worry so much about what other people think of me and that I control where I’m going to go in life, not them. It may be a little too late to fix the mistakes I have made in school this year but it’s not too late to fix my outlook on life. Of course I’m still going to care what other people think about me but I’m not going to let other people’s perception of me control my life.
peoples perceptions of me affect me greatly. if it is negative i get really upset and im not "me" for awhile. i think about the negative more so than i do the positive. perceptions of me from others really do affects what i think about myself. the difference between what most people think i am and what i can be are complete opposites. an example for instance krystina b. if she would just stop talking crap on me for no apparent reason, and quit forcing me to be a complete bitch back. she could see that i can be the nicest and sweetest person in the world.right now int his moment i think i am for the most part a good person, fun,happy, and a bitch(sometimes). but i know what i can be and thats a successful woman who is fun,loving,and happy. as i form my own self concept i take others perceptions into a lot of consideration. the negatives really bother me and i try to do my best to change them. a person can't really know me by others perceptions although some may be correct others are not. a person can only get to know me through talking to me.
I think right now im a young man trying to be an grown man and do what i go to do to survive but i do think people are a product of their enviroment.When you think about it because if your around a bunch of drug dealers,pimps,or whatever thats what your going to do unless u really want better for yourself.i think i can be what ever i want if i put my mind to it eventhough i dont act like it.
I do not care about what people think about me. It only matters what I think and how I feel about myself. If someone does not like me or thinks something bad about me that’s not going to make me bad or make me thing worse of myself. It honestly does not matter what someone else thinks it is just there opinion. I do not like when people do not like me but I know that not everyone in life is going to like me and what to be my friend and I am a fine with that. People can think anything about me and that does not matter. They can think that I will never amount to nothing and all I have to do is prove them wrong. I can be anything I want and do anything I want to in life and I know that. If someone tells me something to try and help me out and I would try to fix what I could as best as I could. It does not matter what other people think about you and I think that everyone should feel that way. It only matters what you think about yourself. I use to get upset and always want people to think good things about me but now it doesn’t bother me as much. As long as I know I am doing the right thing.
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